Dealing well with conflict.
Take a step back and assess the situation. Before jumping into a conflict, it's important to take a moment to understand what is going on. What are the underlying issues and what are the emotions driving the conflict? By understanding the root of the problem, you can approach the situation with a clear and level-headed mindset.
Keep an open mind. It's easy to become entrenched in our own perspectives and beliefs, but it's important to be open to the ideas and opinions of others. Try to see things from their perspective and listen actively to what they have to say.
Practice active listening. In addition to keeping an open mind, it's also important to be an active listener. This means paying attention to what the other person is saying, not interrupting, and asking clarifying questions to ensure you fully understand their perspective.
Communicate openly and honestly. When in the midst of a conflict, it's important to be clear and direct in your communication. Avoid being passive aggressive or beating around the bush. Instead, state your concerns and needs openly and honestly.
Practice empathy. Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another person. When in a conflict, try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and imagine how they might be feeling. This can help you approach the situation with more compassion and understanding.
Seek to understand before seeking to be understood. When in a conflict, it's easy to become focused on making your own case and having your perspective heard. However, it's important to first try to understand the other person's perspective before seeking to have your own heard.
Look for common ground. In any conflict, it's important to find common ground and focus on areas where you can agree. By finding common ground, you can start to build a foundation for resolving the conflict.
Stay calm and composed. It's easy to get caught up in the heat of the moment and become emotional, but it's important to try to stay calm and composed. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that the conflict is not personal – it's about finding a resolution to the problem at hand.
Be willing to compromise. In any conflict, it's unlikely that one side will get everything they want. It's important to be willing to compromise and find a solution that works for both parties.
Take responsibility for your actions. If you have played a role in the conflict, it's important to take responsibility for your actions. By acknowledging your mistakes and apologizing when appropriate, you can help to defuse the tension and move towards a resolution.
It’s always hard to enter into situations that are uncomfortable but when people know that you care and that you “have” cared… meaning, you have earned their respect, it makes things so much easier. I have heard it said that people are the point of life… relationships matter most of all. Do justly, walk humbly and love mercy. DavidAsk